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Sleep deprivation isn't just a phase—it’s a reality many new parents face during the first few months of their baby’s life. If you’re waking up every 90 minutes, trying every trick in the book, or Googling “why won’t my baby sleep?” at 3 a.m., you’re not alone.


There’s a lot of conflicting advice out there about what infant sleep should look like—and even more guilt when things don’t go “by the book.” But the truth is, infant sleep is complex, ever-changing, and different for every baby. Getting support with sleep isn’t a weakness—it’s a gift. For your baby. And for you.


Father joyfully lifts his baby in a softly lit nursery, illustrating bonding and emotional connection that supports healthy infant sleep.
A well-rested baby is a growing baby. Quality sleep supports brain development, mood regulation, and overall wellness.

Why Infant Sleep Is So Challenging


Infants are not born with the ability to sleep through the night. In fact, their circadian rhythms (internal clocks) are still developing. Most babies need to wake frequently for feeds, comfort, and connection—especially during the newborn stage (0–12 weeks). But that doesn’t mean you have to struggle endlessly.


Common sleep challenges include:

  • Frequent night wakings

  • Catnapping during the day

  • Difficulty settling to sleep

  • Needing to be rocked, held, or fed to sleep every time

  • Short naps and unpredictable sleep patterns

  • Day/night confusion in newborns


As babies grow, sleep patterns shift again during:

  • Growth spurts

  • Sleep regressions

  • Developmental milestones

  • Teething and illness


It’s no wonder so many parents feel like they’re failing. But you're not. You're just navigating something no one taught you how to manage—yet.



The Truth About “Sleeping Through the Night”


Let’s clear this up: “Sleeping through the night” doesn’t mean your baby never wakes up. In fact, everyone—babies, children, and adults—experiences brief wake-ups throughout the night as part of a normal sleep cycle.

The difference is that adults and older children typically know how to shift between sleep cycles without needing outside help. Babies, on the other hand, often wake and signal for support to fall back asleep—especially if they’ve learned to rely on external cues like rocking, nursing, or being held.


Sleeping through the night means your baby is able to transition between sleep cycles independently, without needing a feed, rocking, or prolonged intervention from a caregiver. This is called self-soothing, and it’s a skill that can be supported, nurtured, and strengthened over time.


Some babies begin to naturally extend their sleep stretches earlier on, while others need more structured support. Factors like temperament, developmental stage, feeding patterns, and even environment all play a role in how and when this ability develops.


If your baby needs to be fed, rocked, or held every time they wake—you're not doing anything wrong. But if it's no longer working for your family, you don’t have to wait it out or figure it out alone.


This is where professional sleep support becomes incredibly valuable. It helps you:

  • Understand your baby’s specific sleep patterns and needs

  • Identify what’s developmentally appropriate based on age

  • Gradually shift sleep associations so your baby can settle back to sleep on their own

  • Build a healthy, sustainable sleep foundation for the whole family


With a clear plan, consistent routine, and support that respects your parenting values, your baby can learn to sleep longer, deeper, and more predictably—and so can you.



Why Sleep Support Is a Gift for Your Baby


Sleep support isn’t just about longer nights—it directly benefits your baby’s development, emotional regulation, physical health, and overall well-being. During sleep, your baby’s brain is busy forming connections, storing memories, and processing everything they’ve learned throughout the day. Quality rest also supports immune function, appetite regulation, and reduces fussiness.


Helping your baby establish healthy sleep habits early on sets the foundation for long-term growth and resilience. With the right support, sleep becomes a source of strength—not stress—for both your baby and your family.


Here are just a few of the ways sleep support positively impacts your baby’s development:


  • Supports Brain Growth: Sleep is when your baby’s brain forms important connections for learning, memory, and emotional regulation.

  • Boosts Immune Health: Rest helps your baby’s body repair and build immunity, reducing illness and improving recovery.

  • Regulates Mood: Well-rested babies cry less, feed better, and are more alert and engaged during the day.

  • Builds Healthy Sleep Habits: Support sets the foundation for lifelong sleep skills—without creating stress or confusion for your baby.


Better sleep isn’t a luxury—it’s part of helping your baby thrive.



Why Sleep Support Is a Gift for You


You matter, too.


Parenting from a place of exhaustion affects everything—your physical health, mental clarity, relationships, mood, and even your ability to connect with your baby. When you're chronically sleep-deprived, the smallest tasks can feel overwhelming. You may become more irritable, anxious, emotional, or even start to resent your role—not because you're a bad parent, but because you're running on empty.


Getting sleep support is not about having a "perfect" baby or following rigid rules—it's about feeling empowered, informed, and rested enough to enjoy this season.


Here’s what sleep support gives you as a parent:

  • Clarity and confidence about what’s developmentally normal vs. what may need adjustment

  • A personalized plan that adapts with your baby’s growth, temperament, and needs

  • Predictable stretches of rest so you can recover, reset, and be fully present

  • Reduced stress and decision fatigue, especially around bedtime and night wakings

  • Tools to stop second-guessing yourself and the constant pressure to “figure it out” alone

  • Time and energy for bonding, instead of simply surviving the day

  • A sense of control in a stage that often feels overwhelming and unpredictable


Sleep support is not a shortcut—it’s an investment in your mental health, family dynamic, and overall quality of life.


You deserve rest. You deserve support. You deserve to feel confident in your parenting—not just exhausted by it.



Why Choose Family Tree Support Services?


At Family Tree Support Services, we provide developmentally appropriate, responsive sleep support to help your baby sleep better—without pressure, guilt, or confusion.


Led by Jacael Wallace, Certified Pediatric Sleep Consultant, our services include:

  • Structured Sleep Training (Virtual or In-Person) with a Personalized Sleep Plan tailored to your baby’s age, needs, and temperament

  • All About Newborn Sleep (First 12 Weeks) – a foundational workshop for expectant and new parents

  • Ask Me Anything Sleep Calls – focused 30- to 60-minute sessions to answer your most pressing baby or toddler sleep questions


Whether you're struggling with night wakings, short naps, or sleep regressions, we’ll meet you where you are—and help your family rest.



What Parents Are Saying


"I cannot recommend her enough!"


"Jacael was so great—first, we had some unique and unexpected life constraints and needed immediate help, and she rearranged her schedule to get us in ASAP. Secondly, we had a baby who was waking up frequently at night. Jacael gave us a great sleep plan, did two overnight shifts, and somehow got our kids room-sharing and sleeping all night with no wakeups.


Lastly, Jacael was super kind and trustworthy, and I felt safe working with her in my home. I cannot recommend her enough!!"



Ready for Better Sleep?


Sleep isn’t a luxury. It’s a foundation for your baby’s development and your family’s well-being. Getting sleep support doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong—it means you’re making an informed choice to show up fully for your baby, your partner, and yourself.


  • Book a consultation or sleep support session today

  • Join our next “All About Newborn Sleep” workshop

  • Learn more at www.familytreess.com


Better sleep is possible. And it starts here.

Smooth drop-offs, happy kids. Learn how to ease separation anxiety and build a routine your child can trust.
Smooth drop-offs, happy kids. Learn how to ease separation anxiety and build a routine your child can trust.


Preschool is an exciting milestone—but for many families, the first few drop-offs come with tears, clinging, and emotional goodbyes. Whether it’s your child’s first time in school or a new classroom, separation anxiety is completely normal—and so is feeling unsure of how to handle it as a parent.


The good news? With the right routines, emotional preparation, and gentle transitions, you can ease drop-off struggles and help your child feel secure, confident, and even excited for their day.


In this blog, we’ll cover:

  • Why separation anxiety happens

  • How to create a predictable drop-off routine

  • What parents can do before, during, and after preschool drop-off

  • The role of sleep and structure in smoother transitions

  • How our Parent Coaching and workshops can support you through it



What Is Separation Anxiety?


Separation anxiety is a natural emotional response that many toddlers and preschoolers experience when they’re away from their primary caregiver. Between 18 months and 5 years old, children are still learning that separations are temporary—and that their caregivers will return.


But when faced with a new routine, classroom, or teacher, that uncertainty can cause:

  • Crying, clinging, or refusing to let go

  • Hiding or running away during drop-off

  • Screaming or throwing a tantrum

  • Complaints like “my stomach hurts” or “I feel sick”

  • Refusing to get dressed or leave the house

  • Silent withdrawal or emotional shutdown


These behaviors are your child’s way of saying: “This is hard for me.”



When Does Normal Anxiety Become a Pattern?


In the beginning, these behaviors are emotional responses—not manipulative ones. Your child may truly feel overwhelmed, confused, or sad about being apart from you.


But here’s something important for parents to understand: Children are constantly learning from outcomes.


If your child discovers that:

  • Crying

  • Screaming

  • Refusing to go

  • Complaining of pain or fear

... consistently leads to staying home, being picked up early, or getting extra screen time and snacks afterward—they’re learning that those behaviors “work.”


This isn’t about bad behavior—it’s about learning patterns. And if left unchecked, these reactions can become an effective strategy to avoid transitions they find difficult.


So… Is That Manipulation?


In a sense, yes—but not in the negative way we often think. Your child isn’t being malicious—they’re being smart.


They’re testing boundaries and experimenting with what gives them the most comfort or control. If emotional behaviors lead to avoiding school, they’re likely to use them again.


Your job as a parent is to respond with empathy but hold firm boundaries. This teaches your child that:

  • Feelings are valid

  • School is safe

  • You’re confident they can handle it


That’s what builds emotional resilience over time.



How to Ease Preschool Drop-Off: Practical Strategies


Create a Calm, Predictable Morning Routine

Children feel more in control when they know what to expect. Use a simple morning routine with visual cues (wake-up, breakfast, get dressed, brush teeth, pack bag) and keep the flow consistent every day.


Use a Simple Goodbye Ritual

  • Instead of long emotional goodbyes, use a short, upbeat ritual:

“Three kisses, a high five, and I’ll see you after nap time!”Keep it brief and confident—this sets the tone for your child’s day.

  • Keep goodbyes between 30 seconds and 1 minute. The longer you linger, the harder it becomes for your child to separate. A consistent, quick goodbye helps reduce anxiety and builds your child’s confidence to transition on their own.


Acknowledge, Then Move Forward

Try saying: “I see that you’re feeling nervous. That’s okay. I’ll be back after lunch—and your teacher will take great care of you.”This balances empathy with reassurance and forward motion.


Avoid Giving In to Protests

If you allow drop-off resistance to result in staying home, going in late, or special treatment, you’re reinforcing the behavior. Be kind but consistent—show your child that school is non-negotiable.


Work with the Teacher

Most preschool teachers are well-trained in helping children transition. Ask how your child does once you leave. In many cases, kids settle within 5–10 minutes after the parent is out of sight.


Make Sure Your Child Is Well-Rested

Children who are overtired struggle more with transitions. An age-appropriate sleep schedule—paired with consistent bedtime routines—helps with emotional regulation and morning separation.



What If My Child’s Anxiety Persists?


If your child continues to resist school beyond 2–3 weeks, or their anxiety seems to be escalating, it may be time to dig deeper.


You may notice:

  • Ongoing physical complaints

  • Major meltdowns at home every school night

  • Anxiety spilling into other areas (sleep, eating, etc.)


This is where parent coaching can make a major difference.



Parent Coaching for Preschool Transitions


At Family Tree Support Services, we help parents respond to separation anxiety with confidence and consistency. Our one-on-one parent coaching is designed to help you:

  • Break unhealthy drop-off patterns

  • Set clear boundaries while staying emotionally supportive

  • Build a personalized routine that works for your family

  • Reduce stress around school mornings—for both you and your child


Learn more or book now at www.familytreess.com



Better Drop-Offs Start With a Plan


You’re not a “bad parent” if your child cries or resists school. And your child isn’t “bad” for testing boundaries. It’s all part of learning and growing.


The key is consistency, emotional connection, and confident leadership from you.


With the right tools and support, preschool drop-off doesn’t have to be a daily battle—it can become a smoother, more positive part of your child’s routine.



Welcoming a new baby into the world is a momentous occasion, filled with excitement and joy, but it can also come with its fair share of challenges. For Black families, having a Black doula can make a significant difference during this transformative time.


black doula, holding a baby
Jacael Wallace, Owner and Certified Postpartum Doula of Family Tree Support Services, LLC

Postpartum Period (Fourth Trimester)

The postpartum period is a big transition for any family, but for Black families, it comes with unique challenges. Black postpartum doulas play a vital role in helping these families navigate this time. Here’s why they’re so important:


1. Cultural Understanding

Black postpartum doulas know the specific experiences and traditions of Black families. This understanding helps create trust and makes it easier for families to share their needs and concerns. When families feel understood, they’re more likely to ask for help.


2. Addressing Health Disparities

Black women face higher risks of health problems during and after childbirth compared to white women. Black postpartum doulas advocate for their clients, helping them navigate the healthcare system and ensuring they receive proper care. This advocacy is key in addressing health inequalities.


3. Building Trust

Trust is a cornerstone of effective healthcare, especially for Black families who may have encountered biases or discrimination in medical settings. A Black doula can help bridge this gap. Because they share similar backgrounds and experiences, families often feel more at ease discussing their concerns, preferences, and fears. This trust fosters open communication, enabling families to advocate for their needs without hesitation. The comfort of having someone who truly understands their journey can make the birthing experience less stressful and more empowering.


4. Emotional Support

The transition to parenthood can be emotionally overwhelming. Postpartum doulas offer compassionate support to help families navigate these feelings. They provide a listening ear, helping parents process their emotions and experiences. This emotional support is especially valuable in moments of uncertainty or anxiety. Additionally, doulas can connect families with community resources, such as support groups or mental health services that work with other black families, further strengthening their support network. Knowing they have someone to lean on can ease the burden for new parents.


5. Practical Support

Adjusting to a new baby can be overwhelming. Black postpartum doulas provide practical support, like helping with meal preparation and caring for the baby. This assistance allows parents to focus on bonding with their newborn and recovering from childbirth.


6. Education and Empowerment

Knowledge is power, especially when it comes to parenting. Black postpartum doulas provide education that is relevant and culturally appropriate, covering essential topics like breastfeeding, infant care, and postpartum recovery. They ensure that families feel confident in their choices and equip them with the information they need to advocate for themselves. This educational aspect not only empowers parents but also promotes informed decision-making, enhancing the overall poatpartum experience.


Black Doulas Matter

The presence of Black doulas in the postpartum period process is essential for supporting Black families. Their cultural understanding, advocacy, and emotional support help create a more positive and empowering experience when bringing a new baby home. By fostering trust and open communication, Black doulas ensure that families feel heard and respected. As they work to improve health outcomes and provide education, they contribute significantly to the well-being of the community. Embracing the importance of representation in maternal care can lead to healthier, happier families and a stronger, more connected community.


Book a Inquiry call with Jacael Wallace, Owner and Certified Postpartum Doula of Family Tree Support Services, LLC.

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